Friday, March 26, 2010

Secret Fridays- my thoughts

It has always been my intent to run Secret Fridays as a hands-off recurring post.  In other words, a place you can come to in confidence and have your say each week without my input.  After months of doing this, I feel it's time to talk a bit about what this experience has meant to me.

As many of you know, Secret Friday is my 'baby'.  It's something I hold close and feel very protective of, just as I feel protective of the words each of you write weekly under cover of anonymity. Reading what you have to say has been bittersweet for me. Some comments have been so amazing they get my heart and mind racing.  But the comments that affect me most are those that are pulled from deep within.

There are those of you who are in a very dark place right now.  And whether these comments are from someone I know or a visitor just passing through I want you all to know that I read every word you write, and those words stay with me through the day.  I silently and forever hope that those of you who are hurting find peace with your situations and especially yourselves. Although I discourage feedback on people's comments, I want you to know that your words aren't falling on deaf ears.  People do care. 

Secret Fridays will most likely continue for as long as I have my blog. I'm blessed that so many of you feel I've provided a safe place to share your innermost thoughts and emotions, and I thank you for placing that trust in me.

(This is a change from my usual Secret Friday post but feel free to treat it the same way and comment if you wish).


  1. Thanks Barry.

    You are truly a very gentle guy. :)
    Enjoy your weekend.

  2. I have enjoyed coming here every Friday since I discovered your blog to share my inner most secrets, its almost liberating. I also like to read others posts, so that I know I am not alone. Is that a bit mean? That I take comfort in the fact that others also have secrets and or things that they hide? Thank you for the kind words and of course for hosting Secret Fridays! :)

  3. Barry I miss you

  4. I'm going to break tradition and comment here. I want to thank both of you for your words. It's hard to describe how incredibly satisfying it is to see this forum used as I've intended. I like to think of it as a haven from the lack of privacy we have these days; as much as we want to share of ourselves most of us are gunshy, because at some time or another our confidence has been betrayed.

    The fact that you take comfort in knowing that others have secrets and things they hide is most certainly not mean, in fact it's the very reason I started Secret Fridays. Very few of us are as together on the outside as we appear, and I think it's affirming to realize this through the words of others. To have you say this makes me very happy. Thanks guys.

  5. I hope Secret Friday's will continue on for a long long time, thanks for posting!

  6. I feel so used in the situation I am currently in. I'm not sure how much more I can handle.

  7. I feel so used in the situation I am currently in. I'm not sure how much more I can handle.

  8. Keep your secret Fridays going. Posting anonymously is fun :)